I self-identify as a perpetually nostalgic person. Love is so short, forgetting is so long. I have spent the past few years living more vividly, more variously, more dramatically, in retrospect than in reality. Even before this, even when the future was still “touchable dream”, in that I spent my days looking forward to the day when life would open up, when the sun would fall into my room from a crack in the ceiling- even then, at that age to which you must obsessively return as an adult to make sense of your reality in a way that goes beyond nostalgia- even at that age I was plagued by this curious function of memory I could not quite understand.
In some ways, I might have acquired nostalgia as a learned habit. My mother talked about her past- not often, but with a strange wistfulness. I would imagine her in other lives, in other times- and instead of just asking her for a bedtime story as children are prone to do, I would ask her to talk to me about her childhood. I derived a peculiar sense of comfort from this vicarious nostalgia.
In adolescence, there was a distinct nostalgia I associated with winter. This was not the vague, or the indefinite, blurry nostalgia that the long-gone elicits. Rather, when the temperature dipped (and it does not dip much in Kolkata, but when it does it presents to us a vision of the world so novel we erupt into a holiday mood)- I would find that the last winter, or the one before that, would present itself in my memory vividly, and with an acute sense of loss. There was not much sense to this loss, as external circumstances rarely changed, and internal dispositions not significantly either. Rather, the sensory experience of winter would take me back in time, and my life would present itself as a series of winters I have inhabited and experienced, strung together by a thread.
It would seem, to a person so given to nostalgia, that the experience of everyday life should be one that is littered by the presence of many a Proustian madeleine. The curious thing is, however,that, the kind of sensory stimulus that evokes profound nostalgia, is rare. I refer here not to mere retrospection, but the kind of sensory reconstruction of the past that such stimulus evokes.
Yet nostalgia is not always reconstruction or remembrance. At times it is only an indefinite, inexplicable, emotive sensation. Can one isolate nostalgia as emotion unto itself?
In the pandemic-stricken world as we (I) inhabit it now-the past demands to be brought to focus, amidst a present that is shrinking and a future that is collapsing. Against this, I regret having lived most of my life in a way that let me furnish scant material for memory.
I remember often, with a sense of loss, but without any desire for return. This is not nostalgia. I have discovered that nostalgia, for me, when it does have an object, is centred more on emotional states I had then inhabited, rather than on situation, space and the like. I have missed people, but seldom the reality of them.
Yet, nostalgia as an emotional state, is one that impacts me so powerfully, so magnificently, that is seems to be one of the emotions shaping my experience of the world itself.
There is a certain smell- soap mixed with talcum powder, I think- that always takes me back to a water-adventure park that I had visited with my family as a child. I can remember it in some detail- if I strain my memory enough. Yet what the trigger to memory does is not bring back the swimming pool, the sun shining upon the water, the people I was with, or the bathing suit I had on, with any sense of accuracy or importance. What it takes me back to is the emotional state I inhabited at that age , at that time, on that day. It is loaded with poignancy because the majesty of the world as apprehended by one on a day off from school at the age of seven or eight, will never again return. Of late, this is what almost the entirety of my retrospective exercises has focused on- the loss of certain emotional states, the loss of modes of viewing the world that one can never go back to. It is the intervention of event that makes this impossibility insurmountable, and so my nostalgia wrestles against, not centres around, event.
Then there is phenomenon that is coded in cultural, or collective, consciousness, as nostalgic. For me, the most potent trigger of this kind is the sound of old Hindi songs. Of late, the emptiness of the streets at night, coupled with the melody of these songs drifting in from other places, other houses, combines to invoke in me a strange sense of aching longing that seems almost novel. I do not know why. I did not grow up listening to Hindi songs. Rather, they were almost taboo in our household, mostly at the behest of my father, an ardent linguistic nationalist at the service of his mother tongue. Do old Bollywood songs, then, invoke in me some sense of loss for that which I never thought of as desirable to start with? Or is the otherness they represent- they drift in from other people’s houses, and thus remind me of the existence of a world beyond the home I am confined to- that elicits in me something like nostalgia? Because it is neither the song as song, nor any sense of incomprehensibility- that fills me with that ache. It must be then, an alterity, an inaccessible otherness- of time, space, and sense- that elicits this emotional response.
Maybe nostalgia, as emotion in itself, is inseparable from despondency as a general phenomenon. And maybe it points to that which all sadness is really about- incompleteness, yes, in that we may only ever access our own life in fragments. The inaccessibility of parts of our own life- sometimes lost to us even in memory- brings us ultimately- to that which is at the heart of much sadness- the phenomenon of impossibility.
Loss speaks to irretrievability- a function, a brand, of the impossible. Yet irretrievability is not only that of the what was, but that of desire, of hope, of an expandable limit of the possible. Nostalgia is an apprehension of this shade of impossibility, as it manifests itself in the paradigm of time. Nostalgia, then, strikes at the lack that is at the root of all dissatisfaction- a consciousness of the what is not, the what could be, and the what could not be.
Why, then, is nostalgia as sweet as it is bitter, why then does nostalgia hold an odd comfort for us alongside the sadness it evokes? The answer is obvious, in that nostalgia reassures us that we have inhabited better times. This potential of other ways of being is comforting when it allows us to re-assess our lives, and with it, the human condition itself. Yet, is the comfort of the past as evoked by nostalgia hinged upon, necessarily so, by the consciousness of the future? Is any comfort we derive from recovering past modes of happiness ( a vague word, and I use it here only as example- I do not think recalling the happy is necessarily at the heart of nostalgia), really an assertion of the possibility of return? Is nostalgia about return, or its impossibility? Even if we apprehend time in an unwavering linearity, however, nostalgia is a reminder of alternate ways of apprehending, and inhabiting the universe, than is presented to us by our present. What use, then does nostalgia hold in a world where the future seems increasingly tenuous?
We are, of course, not nostalgic for its utilitarian value. Yet, in the regular world, every emotion would fit into our scheme of things in some specific, implicit, imperceptible way. Now, even in the face of this all-engulfing (and dreary) present, I am confronted with visions of the future as I am with that of the past. What does one do with the functions of time, laden with their usual implications of loss, or hope, or despair, at a time like this, when the present itself stretches itself out before you as manifestation of loss?